Thursday, 24 July 2008

This fence is sooo uncomfortable

I keep getting myself into bother. I don’t like seeing people slated when they aren’t in the room to defend themselves. I won't say who I was defending because you won't know them anyway but I couldn't stand to see their name being dragged through the mud without a fair trial if you will. Whenever I think I'm doing the right thing it always ends up being me against the whole room. Why do I get involved. I’m not a confident person (I am quite loud though) and I hate, and I stress the word hate here like this haaaaaaattttttte!!!! confrontation. So why do I do it? I state my case and everyone is on me. To me that is not a debate when it starts as a one on one and ends up as a 4 on 1. I get all flustered and go red and I can't debate well. The words don't seem to come out right and it's too cringey to watch. Is it best to stand up for what you believe in and look a fool in the process or stand back and not say a word?


  1. I know where you're coming from here and tend to find myself in exactly the same position especially with family members.

    I think you should carry on doing what you've been doing and do what you believe to be right. Mind you it's horrible when they all turn on you though.

  2. I'm with you on this - I hate confrontation and go all red-faced and shaky-voiced but I can't stand by and say nothing if it's something I feel strongly about, especially if someone's being bullied. It IS horrid when people turn on you (I got hauled in front of my bosses once, for sticking up for someone) but I think you're right to to with your instincts.

  3. I don't think I could cope with debates like that with family members. I would really get upset by that. It is horrible and unfair especially when no one backs you up. I'm sure I will always stand up for what I believe in even if I tell myself not to

    Yes Karen, I forgot to mention the shaky voice. v. embarrasing. At least I can feel happy that I didn't stand back and blend into the paintwork

    Thanks to you both, I feel a LOT better now!! :)